"More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren't so busy denying them"
- Harold J Smith
- Harold J Smith
I think, as humans, our main problem is the fact that we forget we are humans. I am fully aware that there are some people who go through life playing by the rules and that's great for them - but personally I pity them. I have always believed that in life, some rules are meant to be broken. And the rules we break, the consequences we face, are how we learn and grow from it.
I remember the first boy I fell in love with - in fact, I remember everything about him..all the feelings he introduced me to, our first kiss and even our last one. It is definitely true what they say about your first love, you will not forget them, even if you want to.
I remember going into my first relationship and falling head over heels in love with each other...instantly making promises of forever. Our innocence and naivety prohibited us from understanding the cruel truth - people change, things change...and unless you're willing to accept the changes, you have to move on..I believe one of the fundamental mistakes we make when entering a new relationship is how we don't prepare ourselves for the worst, just IN CASE it happens. It doesn't matter how old you are or how many relationships you have had..sometimes mistakes are repeated. But what we think is a mistake may not even be a mistake at all. I was confident that the mistake I made in this particular relationship was falling too fast and giving up every part of my heart to him - But I was wrong. I have every right to invest everything in the person I love. My mistake was not preparing myself for the worst case scenario - falling out of love...I genuinely believed we were going to last forever, and I should have known better..I made a mistake, but I learnt from it!
This relationship was the longest relationship I have had (so far), lasting a little more than two years. Devastation inevitably followed when we both realised it just wasn't working out. He moved away to University, and when he left the love that we once felt for each other turned into a love of friendship. It was like our sexual desire, our lust for one another vanished into the mist that year. It's surprising how often that actually happens..Writing this now, reminds me of the girl I was back then - I had so much I wanted to tell him, and wish I could tell him now...It's odd that the immature love I felt for him still resides in my heart and yet he is the hardest one to describe to all of you readers..
I guess by dedicating a post to him, all of you could understand the depth of our relationship better..
TLG
I remember going into my first relationship and falling head over heels in love with each other...instantly making promises of forever. Our innocence and naivety prohibited us from understanding the cruel truth - people change, things change...and unless you're willing to accept the changes, you have to move on..I believe one of the fundamental mistakes we make when entering a new relationship is how we don't prepare ourselves for the worst, just IN CASE it happens. It doesn't matter how old you are or how many relationships you have had..sometimes mistakes are repeated. But what we think is a mistake may not even be a mistake at all. I was confident that the mistake I made in this particular relationship was falling too fast and giving up every part of my heart to him - But I was wrong. I have every right to invest everything in the person I love. My mistake was not preparing myself for the worst case scenario - falling out of love...I genuinely believed we were going to last forever, and I should have known better..I made a mistake, but I learnt from it!
This relationship was the longest relationship I have had (so far), lasting a little more than two years. Devastation inevitably followed when we both realised it just wasn't working out. He moved away to University, and when he left the love that we once felt for each other turned into a love of friendship. It was like our sexual desire, our lust for one another vanished into the mist that year. It's surprising how often that actually happens..Writing this now, reminds me of the girl I was back then - I had so much I wanted to tell him, and wish I could tell him now...It's odd that the immature love I felt for him still resides in my heart and yet he is the hardest one to describe to all of you readers..
I guess by dedicating a post to him, all of you could understand the depth of our relationship better..
TLG
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